Black and Third World people are expected to educate white people as to our humanity. Women are expected to educate men. Lesbians and gay men are expected to educate the heterosexual world. The oppressors maintain their position and evade their responsibility for their own actions. There is a constant drain of energy which might be better used in redefining ourselves and devising realistic scenarios for altering the present and constructing the future.

Audre Lorde (via lunetlautre)

THIS. Saw the Glenn Ligon exhibit at LACMA today where these ever-important few lines played a little part, but spent most of my time there talking about boys with one of my two-ever mentors.

This sentiment is so true and makes me so upset, but handily explains why I don’t believe in Slutwalk and don’t care to debate with anyone and why I barely every really write, tweet, blog, even talk, about feminism. Because I know already, and because I don’t give a shit about turning my oppressors, because that’s not interesting to me. My feminism is in the doing: in being a writer, generally, and a self-employed biznez person, being honest and for-real, hanging out and working with people who get it, and only being with guys who like that I am funny and cool and not just some tittays. And when it comes down to it, I care about what my many nieces and nephews and my not-now-gross-but-later kids think about themselves and each other, not what some random, dumb 40-year-old man thinks about anything.