Anonymous said: Recent grad struggling to find a way to pay the bills. How do you manage writing and $$?

snpsnpsnp:

Very poorly. But I’m not poor; I just never formed the habit of living, the way most people do. They know how bad for you living is, but they simply choose not to believe it. Instead, they wake up and, without a second thought, without knowing they are deciding, decide to live.

I am not one of these people. Every day I wake up and think why. I know I’ll decide to live like everyone else, but why, and why if I’m going to do it do I fail to do it automatically, as a habit, or why if I am addicted like the rest which I am and I know do I remain the kind of addict who believes each time she reaches for air that it’s her choice, that she wants this, that it’s not like she needs it, oh no, she could refuse it if she felt like it, but she doesn’t feel like it, no, it’s the last time, maybe, maybe not.

Given my relationship to air how do you think I fare with water? To answer your question, in a way.

my bambina, coming correct

I can write because my idea of “living” is usually different than yours.

flarefashion:

Love, Kate: My Best Friend’s Life Is Perfect and It Makes Me Sick

Dear Kate,

My best friend’s life is perfect and I have to admit it makes me sick to my stomach. She’s the same age as me (late twenties) and we graduated at the same time, but she already has it all: great husband and two cute kids who she gets to stay home with. My friend makes me regret my own choices in life that have led me to still be single. What makes it even worse is that she’s oblivious and complains to me about her husband, while I haven’t had a boyfriend for four years. Am I allowed to remind her of how good she has it? —Zoe

For our super-smart sex and relationship columnist, Kate Carraway’s, savvy relationship advice head over to http://www.flare.com/sex-and-relationships/jealous-of-my-best-friend-her-life-is-perfect/

By me!

flarefashion:

Love, Kate: My Best Friend’s Life Is Perfect and It Makes Me Sick

Dear Kate,

My best friend’s life is perfect and I have to admit it makes me sick to my stomach. She’s the same age as me (late twenties) and we graduated at the same time, but she already has it all: great husband and two cute kids who she gets to stay home with. My friend makes me regret my own choices in life that have led me to still be single. What makes it even worse is that she’s oblivious and complains to me about her husband, while I haven’t had a boyfriend for four years. Am I allowed to remind her of how good she has it? —Zoe

For our super-smart sex and relationship columnist, Kate Carraway’s, savvy relationship advice head over to http://www.flare.com/sex-and-relationships/jealous-of-my-best-friend-her-life-is-perfect/

By me!

Matt Berman’s new book is a def-read for 90s magazine fiends. (Also, welcome back, delicious fonts.)

Matt Berman’s new book is a def-read for 90s magazine fiends. (Also, welcome back, delicious fonts.)

Being anti-drugs (and, 90% of the time, anti-booze) and anti-unsafe-sex and anti-casual-meanness and anti-thoughtlessness and anti-assumptions and anti-random-no-big-deal-style-dishonesty can really make you seem anti-fun, I realize, but in actuality, it’s so much the opposite.

abathingsavage:

this is my favorite fr

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